Monday, May 22, 2006

Amidst the rudeness, some e-mails of support

Just a note to thank all my non-shrill and non-hysterical readers for their e-mails of support. Here's one from a guy who really gets it:

From: Big Daddy, Esq. <[redacted]>
Date: May 22, 2006 12:49 PM

[Subject:] Hope that last post works...

...but I doubt it will. From all I can tell, trying to explain yourself is just poking the beehive. It's turned into one of those self-sustaining little shitstorms. Good luck with it. Just know that there are plenty of us out here that thought it was a pretty funny comment you made and don't quite know whatall the fuss is about.

Thank you, Dan. And thanks to all of my brothers in blog who, like Dan, understand that they don't have to put up with shitstorms of high-pitched clamoring. This is not just about me or my blog anymore: It's about the right of ALL Americans to refer to the cowards in their lives as "girls" or "girly" or as "acting like girls."

Furthermore, I don't have to remind you that there is a war on our freedoms going on, and this War Blogger will be DAMNED if he is going to be side-tracked by PC baloney from people who would rather cry (like a bunch of girls) than address the serious issues of the day, as prioritized by me, Johnny A.

-Johnny A.

ps. Remember to make a donation, everyone, because it's fundraising week here at Aravosisblog! You guys are not going to believe how awesome the new site is going to be. I just saw one of the first mock-ups, and it's gotten me so excited that I'm having a hard time concentrating on the deleting and banning.

Note: If I delete your comment and ban you and you don't think you deserved it, simply send a note with the comment in question to and we will try to get to it at the next Aravosisblog Comment Review Committee (ACRC) bi-hourly meeting.

(Yes, unfortunately, the deleting and banning has kept me so busy that I've had to hire help. Now, I'm sure I don't have to tell you that professional deleters and banners don't work for free--our brand of stellar quality control doesn't come cheap!--so remember, give what you can during Aravosisblog fundraising week!!)


Blogger Everyday Activist said...

Wonderful post! We made your website the lead story at

Great job!

12:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Here's another $50. And I just know you are hard at work on one of those BREAKING stories you break so well. I mean, sometimes I am reminded of a bull in a china shop! (Such a manly image!)

Come on, give us a hint...what are your super secret undercover D.C. sources saying? Last week it was that Tony Blair was going to resign, uh, this week. I know you were right and it is only a matter of time until we all know that he is really a gay prostitute.

2:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I hereby request that the ACRC please, pretty, pretty please restore the following comment of mine:


Hmmm, since you deleted it, I don't have it. Oh, well, that didn't work. I shall return to tripping over myself while I fawn all over you.

2:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

John, I know that when you threw that spectacular tantrum earlier this month over Howard Dean justifiably replacing your friend at the DNC with a much more qualified professional, that you were really trying to drum up support for the good doctor through reverse psychology. Your fists and feet hitting the floor so repetitively and with such fury showed me the light. Accordingly, I have increased my monthly donations to Dean and the DNC. I know that it is precisely the result you were after. You're so clever that way!

3:27 PM  
Blogger Johnny A-List said...

Kathyf, you have been very generous during this fundraising drive, so I have decided to award you a "Get Out of Deletion Free Card." The next time I delete one of your comments, simply submit the e-voucher to the ACRC and I will restore your original comment with only MINOR edits.


3:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


- oddjob

4:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

John is an accidental liberal. He is gay, so he not embraced by the conservatives he identifies with. But underneath it all, he is really one of them.

Too funny!

4:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This blog rocks. This and are my new favorite blogs!

Way to go GIRLS!

5:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Please Girls. Give to Momma Aravosis.

Please note, this isn't a cult!

It's been two months since we last held a reader fundraiser, so it seemed about time.

You can donate quite easily and safely online via this link (and if the link doesn't work, please use the yellow boxes in the left-hand column of the blog). AND, before I forget, if you use the yellow boxes at left, you can even create a recurring monthly donation that's automatically deducted from your account each month - for me, that's an easier way to give and not have remember each month to give $5 or whatever.

We're finally in the home stretch of re-launching the blog with our own servers, enhanced comments, and lots of new features for you guys (and for the folks on our end as well). We should start the launch next month, and then slowly roll things out to make sure it all works. Having our own servers will let us host way more video and audio than we can now (we pretty much can't host any). And we have even more fun things planned for the new site (we're still working on the look and feel of the home page).

Anyway, all of this takes money, I've had a tech guy working on this for months (and not for free), and we'll be paying around $1500/month in bandwidth and another $500 a month in tech costs once we move.

There's also the salary for my writers and me (I'm working full-time on the blog and Joe is spending about 1/3 to a half of his time, easily - and Chris isn't being slough either. Not to mention, Joe is spending about 1000 bucks out of his own pocket to attend the YearlyKos conference. Yes, that's his choice, I'm just saying there are expenses to blogging on a big site that folks might not realize at first glance). I believe in paying my guys a fair salary for their work. And while they initially volunteered to write for free for fun, I've been paying them what I can, and now want to make that a real salary as the blog responsibilities, and thus their responsibilities, have grown.

Our ad revenues picked up again last month, thank God, and we hope to rely solely on ad revenues at some point in the future, only asking you guys to help for special causes (someone in need, or raising money to help a special campaign we want to run). But for now, your donations still help.

So, to the extent you can, please consider helping us out. And as always, if you can't afford it right now, please don't. I don't want folks breaking their banks if they're strapped right now. It's more important that you be a part of this community and help us all work together for the common good.

Thanks guys, JOHN

5:22 PM  
Blogger Everyday Activist said...

Is John a MORON??!

Skippy, I so don't want to get into this again because every time I try to respond, things get twisted yet again.

I didn't not initially reply "pissy" at all. I explained that this was gay vernacular, and later explained what I meant by that - the phrase "big girl" is gay male slang for "big fag." Several folks then erupted and said that was ridiculous, they'd never heard of it, etc. - as if I was just making it up - and then they called me a misogynist, and more - that's when all hell break lose.

The fact remains that the phrase "big girl" (often written "big grrrrl") IS gay male slang. That fact doesn't change because someone hasn't heard of it. Now, some folks don't like it, I get that, some find it sexist, I get that too. I don't happen to agree with them, even if I understand their concern.

But after I explained why I used the word, folks turned rude. Far too many were not simply disagreeing or expressing concern, they were downright rude. And after you enter that territory, you shouldn't expect a "nice" reply.

And what seems to have hurt some folks more is that I simply don't agree with them on this. I respect their point of view, but I don't agree. I happen to believe that sometimes when people think they have a grievance they're actually wrong, even if they're good people. I've gotten numerous letters from feminists saying they agree with me, the use of "big girl" was fine with them, they got the snark, they got the joke. Are they right? Are you? And who is to decide? Or are those feminists sexist misogynists too?

Either way, things got bad when a number of people started acting rudely because they didn't like my explanation. They weren't just complaining, they weren't just offering a suggestion, they were acting rudely. They were treating me the way you'd treat Ann Coulte - not the way you'd treat a friend and colleague who has already proven repeatedly whose side they're on.

I respect your opinion, and I disagree.

John Aravosis | 05.22.06 - 6:05 pm | #

5:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

No, John is NOT a moron, he is a fucktard.

5:34 PM  
Blogger Pinko Punko said...

I'm giving a million dollars. Your work is more important that my family.

8:40 PM  
Blogger Hippodameia said...

Golly, John, I have to pay you to tell me to sit at the back of the bus?

4:45 PM  

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